How do I get that girl

           Face it, when it comes to picking up women, you could use a little help. Don’t feel bad, you’re certainly not alone. In the big old world of dating, its common knowledge that women run the playing field, controlling situations, ending conversations and walking out with whoever they choose.




But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Hooking up with quality women takes practice.Seduction is an art.  You need to know how to approach women,  so that they melt while hanging onto your every word. You need to know how to turn the tables around, so that they’re begging you for your time and attention. 


Dating market 
Do you know what one of the biggest misconceptions in the dating scene really is? That you have to have a killer body, a killer face or a bank accounts that never ends.



But think about it, it’s likely that you’ve been shocked at the sight of some of the guys who have been able  to hook up with gorgeous women, right?
Overweight, nerdy, it doesn’t matter – if you have the ‘magic touch’ when it comes to women, you can connect with anyone who choose, regardless of how you look, how old you are, where you’re from – or what you do.


So, what is the basis of the magic touch?


1. Confidence.

Don’t underestimate its power. Confidence is like an aphrodisiac for women. They smell it a mile away and if you approach them wear that  confidence , you’ll easily tear down even the strongest wall between you and her.

But here’s where most guys get it all wrong.

EGO and Confidence are two different things!






Women love one, they can’t stand the other, so you need to be able to make the distinction.  Ego turns women away – they end up feeling as if they aren’t having a conversation with you, they are competing against you.


Confidence however is far more passive. You aren’t shouting how fantastic you are from the rooftops, or waving it front of their faces.

So how can you gain confidence if you lack experience?

You fake it until you make it.

Confidence comes from experience, so you’re going to have to prepare for a few strikeouts before you begin to genuinely feel more comfortable talking to women.



2. Approaching Women

When you approach a woman, look her directly in the eyes.
She’ll be paying attention to your body language. When it comes to confidence, your movements, your connection, and even your posture is the giveaway.

 If you say something stupid, laugh it off. Women love a sense of humor almost as much as they love confidence, so don’t sweat the small stuff.

When striking up conversation, focus on her. Women want to see that you’re genuinely interested in them (and don’t fake it, they’ll detect it faster than you say ‘hello’).


If you find it difficult to talk to a woman and no matter what you do she simply seems uninterested, walk away. It’s her loss,


When striking up a conversation, you want to avoid religion, age, education and ex’s. Everything else is a go.

Be genuine and sincere when you ask her questions about herself.  pay attention to what she has to say. It’s likely she’ll quiz you later on and if you fail that test, you’re out.

Don’t lay it on too thick. If you’re at a club, the last thing a woman wants to do is discuss politics.

 Be light and fun. You want to keep the conversation flowing, and to be the guy that’s going to show her a great time. 

Conversations need to be relevant to the location!



3. Questions First, Drinks 


Ask her questions and find out whether you stand a chance in hell of connecting with her.

– Who are you here with?
Easy way of finding out if she’s there with her boyfriend, with the girl-gang who is likely to whisk her off any moment, or if she’s out and looking.

- Are you from around here?

Fast way of finding out whether she’s someone you’re going to be able to go out with, or if she’s only there for a short time.

Don’t think that by buying her drinks she’ll somehow feel obligated to talk to you, she won’t. She’ll take the drink and walk over to her boyfriend where they’ll finish it off before heading out the door.


4.Compliments Versus Negging

Lay it on thick and she’ll think you’re cheesy and fake. Don’t compliment her at all, and she’ll probably misunderstand your intentions and feel you’re simply not interested.


When handing out compliments to a woman you’re interested in, use them carefully – they’re powerful weapons when yielded properly, but if not, they can quickly backfire.


Don’t compliment her on how beautiful her eyes are if she’s wearing 3-inch glasses that make it impossible to really see her eyes.

 Don’t tell her that you love her style, because she’ll question your sexuality.

Be genuine. If you like her hair, say so – but only if you truly like it.

Women are their hardest critics and the last thing you want to do is emphasize a flaw she’s been tryingto hide all night.




Negging on the other hand, is when you use backhand compliments to take a woman down a peg (or two).

"Cool hair. Is this a wig?"

 It’s not insulting, it’s gentle teasing but highlighting a potential flaw that will take her down to your playing field, so she gives up the game of being “better than you”.
Be careful with negging.

 It works extremely well on women who think they’re a notch above a Greek Goddess, but you never want to outright insult her either, otherwise you’ll stand little chance of carrying on a conversation longer than a few minutes.

Negging should always make you both feel at ease, and break the ice with a laugh – not used to leave her running off to the ladies room in tears.